Posts tagged ‘women’

From Tambra Stevenson of Creative Cause. If you are a woman and you’re in the DC Area please check out this important event. The Roundtable is free and open to the public.
As the author Alice Walker noted in her 2007 book release, we are the ones we have been waiting for.
And the classic acapella group, Sweet Honey on the Rock, sings, “we are the ones we have been waiting for?’

So with all the noted research social and health inequalities impacting our sisters–those with degrees and not—what are we waiting for?

Does it have to be your sister, niece, or daughter for you to realize that you are the one we have been waiting for!

Must we die being superwomen – from stress-related disorders causing the mental health, chronic diseases, etc.
What are you waiting for?

Does it have to take another Megan Williams of W. Va., Benita Jacks of Washington, DC, the girl who is so depressed

she eats her anger away, the 10-month black female infant who was raped in DC, or the Howard student who was raped?
Health and healing begins with us…if we don’t speak up, it’s like all of us giving up.

In this month’s Heart and Soul magazine, a black woman shares her story with bipolar.

In the PBS documentary stories of highly educated professional black women with families still

suffer from higher levels of stress impacting their babies’ outcomes. Do you think there is a coincidence?

What do you think needs to happen?

This is not just an American issue, this is a global issue. Women of African descent suffer the worst health care and receive the lowest to no wages compared to anyone else. The information is on the web, just Google!

Like politics, change starts local and with ourselves.

With a Gen Y population of 76 million mostly women, we have an unbelievable opportunity to

galvanize from the grassroots to the grasstops. We can create change from our computers to
the streets and to the suites.

Join us and bring a friend to make history and set the personal

and political agenda on young black women’s health! This event is part of the 25th Anniversary Celebration of the Black Women’s Health Imperative which is holding the National Black Women’s Health Conference. Learn more at

Setting the Agenda: Young Black Women’s Health Roundtable
with the Black Women’s Health Imperative,, and

DC Young Women’s Leadership Committee

Thursday, June 19, 2008
6:00 – 8:00 PM

Omni Shoreham Hotel
2500 Calvert Road, NW
Washington, DC 20009
Metro: Woodley Park (red line)

For directions use: (car) or (metro)

Open to the public. Free. Get a special gift. RSVP via email or Facebook.

Questions? Email

Want to be a host committee? Email me your name, age, hometown and what is your health story.

No Voice. No Policy. No Power. No Progress. We are the ones we have been waiting for.

Things of Note: The Shame of Monica Conyers | Saartjie Project | Risque Prom Dresses

Guess who’s bizzack (c) Jay-Z and Scarface

Aight, let’s get right to it:

  • You embarrass me. You Embarrass yourself. That’s right, I’m talking to you Monica Conyers:

Some of you may have heard about this already, but Monica Conyers, the President Pro Tem of the Detroit City Council, got into a shouting match with Council woman Joann Watson and President of the City Council President Ken Cockrel. At the height of the foolishness, Conyers refers to Cockrel as “Shrek.” Leading up to that, she had blurted out,

“You’re not my daddy!You do that at home, not here. Give me some respect ’cause I’m tired of that. You may not do that at home, but you gon do it up in here.”Grow up! Control your house and you’ll know how to treat women better.”

Nevermind the fact that Cockrel was just doing his job and attempting to keep the order in the session. And yet Monica Conyers, a grown woman, deemed it necessary to attack the man personally like she was a 12 year old brat. It was probably the most embarrassing spectacle of I’ve ever seen from one of our so-called Black Leaders.

If Monica’s last name sounds familiar to you, it’s because she is the wife of Congressman John Conyers, the chair of the House Judiciary Committee. And Speaking of 12 year olds, check out this clip of 8th grader Kierra Bell questioned Conyers actions:

…out of the mouth of babes. Conyers was rendered almost speechless. You go, girl. Maybe you can take Ms. Conyer’s place one day.

  • Ciao, Bella!: The Saartjie Project, a collective of artists exploring the legacy of the Hottentot Venus, now has a great article about the newest cover of Italian Vogue via The Root. It’s so interesting to me how other [European] cultures have embraced Black female beauty. in a way that American culture has yet to.
  • Another installment of “Don’t dress your daughter like a skank”: Long story short-Marche Taylor, High School senior, was arrested when refusing to leave when the principal told her that her skimpy prom dress would bar her from entry into to prom.
  • [Marche Taylor] was told her custom-made dress violated the school dress code.

    At that point, Taylor said she was furious. She said if she couldn’t get in, she wanted her money back.

    Things got so bad that someone called the police. Officers showed up, handcuffed her and escorted her out. from KHOU

My verdict: sorry, this girl ain’t a victim.

the principal did what she had to do—uphold of standard of appropriate dress for a prom, which meant that girls would not be allowed to have their ASSets hangin out everywhere and pass it off as “cute.” (the dress wasn’t anywhere NEAR cute—but that is a different story as this is not a fashion blog :-))

As for the girl getting arrested–let’s be clear: the girl wasn’t being arrested for wearing the dress. She was being arrested for causing a scene when she found out she couldn’t go to her prom.

I can’t pass all the blame on the girl though. I’ve discussed this here before, and if any of you were to log on to What About Our Daughters, they would agree–parents need to teach their daughters about what is and is not age-appropriate. My mother would have looked at me crazy if I had even suggested wearing a get-up like that, and it’s because she taught me better than that.

Elledub on the radio!-This Sunday, April 20th

On this Sunday from 6-7pm, I will be featured on Rosetta Thurman’s BlogTalkRadio Show on Non-Profit professionals and the quest for a good salary. As a Non-Profit gal, this is a topic very near and dear to my heart.

Rosetta is the Director of Development at Non Profit Roundtable and her blog, Perspectives from the Pipeline, focuses on diversity and other issues young professionals face in the Non-Profit sector.

Click here this Sunday at 6pm to tune in and perhaps ask a question or two.

revival of the R&B teen queen

I know I’ve griped a lot about young girls and teens and how they’re growing up so fast these days….but tonight I wanted to talk about a girl named Karina Pasian, a 16 year old up-and-coming r&b singer. She has a song about precisely some of the themes I’ve brought up i this blog: the challenges girls face growing up in a society that insists they rush into adulthood. My boyfriend and I heard it on the radio one afternoon and I thought to myself, “Man, I really wish more young r&b acts sung songs about things like this.”

Here it is…”16 at war”:

The bridge says it all: I want you to know the best of me/I want to belong without being treated like property. It’s so refreshing to see a young singer talk about something other than the boy around the corner or lip gloss…

…and trust me, I know there’s a time and a place for everything, and there is room for both kinds of artists. I happen to like Lil Mama cuz she’s very age appropriate and has a cute, funky style…but I’m just glad to know that the young generation of r & b acts are also talking about things of substance, and about how they think, feel, and react to the community around them.

I’m wondering if any of these younger female acts—Teyana Taylor and Tiffany Evans included–will fill the shoes that Monica, Brandy, and even Beyonce once filled.

To switch gears, this post wouldn’t be complete without a throwback track….I KNOW I am not the only one who remembers “That’s What Little Girls Are Made Of” by Raven-Symone…I even had the album!

Women I love Part 3-Betty Wright

….hell yeah I’m still doing this. April has just started and Women’s History should be celebrated all year round anyway, as should Black History. so there! 😛

And with that, I bring you Betty Wright, soul sister extraordinaire:

Some of you may be very familiar with “Tonight is the Night”. particularly because of the hook: “Tonight is the night you make me a woman…”

And if you hadn’t guessed, the song is about “making love for the very first time” as she tells us in her humorous but matter-of-factly way during her classic two-minute monologue.

I almost forgot about this song until a friend of mine had the above link in her Gchat status….I fell in love with it all over again when I finally clicked the link after coming home from work. She speaks in a candid, sincere way about her first sexual experience in a way that very few female artists had done at that time, but in a way that was timely—this song was released in 1974, right in the middle of the Womens’ Movement.

Black female sexuality is a topic that I’ve explored both as an English major and as a womanist who is dedicated to women and girls’ advocacy. This song–aside from the sense of humor Betty Wright displays so well –reminds me of how important it is for women of color to embrace their sexuality in a positive way. More often then not, in the age of HIV, video vixens, and (sigh) men on the “down low” we forget that sex is supposed to be something beautiful and precious and–yes,–memorable. And that, to me, is just as important as learning about safe sex, abstinence, love relationships, and the like.

To switch gears, I thought I’d throw in another song by her. Here’s “Girls Can’t Do What the Guys Can Do” :

I’ve been listening to this song on repeat for a few days…great commentary on the double standard…it’s true, girls simply can’t always do what guys do and get the same amount of respect. The more things change the more they stay the same.

On a lighter note, “Girls Can’t Do What the Guys Can Do” was sampled by one Beyonce Knowles. I’m usually pretty good with samples but even I didn’t catch this one:

Things of Note: stylish 8-year-olds, Kwame’s Muse, a gratuitous Obama pic, and what black men think.

I know it’s been a while, so I’m just gonna jump right in:

I can’t believe I haven’t talked about this before. I was on the Green Line the other day when i saw two 8 year old girls decked out in skinny jeans and door knockers. oh, and they had on the boots with the fur.

skinny jeans?

Door knockers?

eight year olds?

….boots with the fur?

I’ll never understand how “grown” these little girls are dressing now. When I was eight, do you know what I as wearing? I was wearing jumper overalls.

I mean sure, looking back, now that I’m in my 20s they were pretty lame…but you know what?

They were age appropriate.

And I guess that’s my point….when did parents stop dressing their girls appropriately? Since when did they start dressing kids up in designer clothes? When I was 8, my mom boughtmy clothes from Sears. I wasn’t dressed like a 22-year-old fashionista, I was dressed like a little Black girl.

All of this goes back to my discussion about sexual maturity a few weeks ago…we’ve gotta let our girls be girls. But I’m gonna take off my girls’ advocate hat, otherwise we’ll be here all night.

support black bloggers. all the cool kids are doin’ it: Some of you may remember Kwame Boadi from previous plugs for his column at Brooklyn Bodega. His own blog is back with a vengeance…Check it out his musings on the science of the “dap,” election ’08, and the puzzling history of the name Kwame.

Worth a Click: What Black Men Think is a documentary dispelling many stereotypes about Black men—for instance, are there REALLY more black men in jail than in college? if you believe so, is it simply because society has embedded this “statistic” into our minds? Definitely worth a look. There are clearly many struggles that Black men face, but when you take a closer look there really is hope–and in a few cases it’s not as bad as we are made to believe.

The film explores the issue of black marriage, the use of the N-word, academic achievement, crime. “There is a disconnect between perception and reality,” Morton says.

Read More from director Janks Morton at Washington Post.

And now, another awesome Obama pic:

Obama ’08. Pennsylvania. Let’s get it.

Tonight in DC: let your SOL glow.

and i’m not talking about the eddie murphy movie…


Tonight at 7pm. solly’s tavern. u st, nw.

we’re honoring men who love empowered women…and women who have made contributions to Washington, DC.

Mae Best, Executive Director of the East River Family Strengthening Collaborative, will be recognized for her tremendous work in DC’s Ward 7.
Lots of love going out to Tambra Stevenson of Creative Cause, who is also the founder of next week’s Next Wave Action Summit….more on that a little later.

Sorry I’ve been gone folks…this week has been crucial…but I’ll be back tomorrow with more updates and more women I love.