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Obama sez: Brothers need to pull up their pants


Not really about the election, but, pretty amusing. Obama does not support laws that criminalize sagging pants, but he thinks it’s not a good look on brothas.

From The New York Times:

“We should be focused on creating jobs, improving our schools, health care, dealing with the war in Iraq, and anybody, any public official, that is worrying about sagging pants probably needs to spend some time focusing on real problems out there.”

“Brothers should pull up their pants,” he said. “You are walking by your mother, your grandmother, your underwear is showing. What’s wrong with that? Come on.”

Well said.


Girls to Sarah Palin: don’t undo what our mothers and grandmothers fought for.

Thanks to Tanya Tarr over at Not My Gal–who is, btw, DEFiNITELY my gal–for sharing this great ad with me. There is something to be said about how inclusive the Third Wave Feminism is to girls and young women. This ad proves it.

Michelle and Barack: have they changed the face of Black love?

I just recently saw the Huffington Post slideshow of the Obamas’ Greatest PDA Moments. It is what it sounds like—a collection of the best pictures of Michelle and Barack doing the couple thing: hugging, sometimes kissing in front of the kids. They are so totally cute, and it’s good to see two Black people really in love, especially in a world where married Black women are supposedly going extinct. As the product of a separated mom and dad and as someone who is currently in a relationship with a wonderful Black man, I have to say it is refreshing to see these kind of images, finally in “real” life, outside of the world of Cliff and Claire Huxtable.

Then, just this week, I had a great conversation with one of my favorite girls about how perhaps Michelle and Barack are the new threshold for Black love. You meet someone, you date for a long time and you think, “is this person my Barack?” “is this person my Michelle?” We use them as the prototype for that perfect mate. And they are a barometer by which we measure our love or like for our significant others.

A man says to his girlfriend, “girl…I think you’re my Michelle.” I’ve heard this recently and it is just about the cutest thing anyone has said to me.

Now, part of me understands that this could go awry…like if men start dropping Michelle’s name as part of a pick-up line. Today, I am discussing this comparison in the context of steady dating, marriage, etc.

So I wonder if the Obamas are becoming the gold standard for the way a Black couple should relate to each other and to the world. It used to be Will and Jada but when you see a couple who could be the President and First Lady, it gives a certain level of distinction that another celebrity couple just wouldn’t bring.  They seem loving and warm without going on cute overload necessarily.

I mean, look at them. How can you see this and not think that perhaps our views about Black love and relationships are changing?

revival of the R&B teen queen

I know I’ve griped a lot about young girls and teens and how they’re growing up so fast these days….but tonight I wanted to talk about a girl named Karina Pasian, a 16 year old up-and-coming r&b singer. She has a song about precisely some of the themes I’ve brought up i this blog: the challenges girls face growing up in a society that insists they rush into adulthood. My boyfriend and I heard it on the radio one afternoon and I thought to myself, “Man, I really wish more young r&b acts sung songs about things like this.”

Here it is…”16 at war”:

The bridge says it all: I want you to know the best of me/I want to belong without being treated like property. It’s so refreshing to see a young singer talk about something other than the boy around the corner or lip gloss…

…and trust me, I know there’s a time and a place for everything, and there is room for both kinds of artists. I happen to like Lil Mama cuz she’s very age appropriate and has a cute, funky style…but I’m just glad to know that the young generation of r & b acts are also talking about things of substance, and about how they think, feel, and react to the community around them.

I’m wondering if any of these younger female acts—Teyana Taylor and Tiffany Evans included–will fill the shoes that Monica, Brandy, and even Beyonce once filled.

To switch gears, this post wouldn’t be complete without a throwback track….I KNOW I am not the only one who remembers “That’s What Little Girls Are Made Of” by Raven-Symone…I even had the album!