Archive for April, 2008

What in Sam Hell is goin on here: Facebook gone wild

Maybe I’m late with this, but apparently, Facebook now has a “Have Sex!” application.

Yeah, you heard me. See it for yourself.

The application is set up so that you can “have sex” with anyone on Facebook who also has the application–it includes places and positions as well. As if that wasn’t enough, when the application shows up on your profile it may read a little something like this:

4 People have already had sex with Keisha.

If they can, you can too!

I can see some potential Facebook drama coming out of this…especially if it involves any one of the following:

1.-people using the “have sex!” application with folks to the point where their number hits the double digits…

2.-people who’s facebook status says “in a relationship” using the said application with folks other than their S.O., which can result in..

3.-angry inboxes telling folks to STAY AWAY FROM MY (WO)MAN

Some of the applications I don’t mind much. I’m actually a fan of the “Addicted to The Wire” application and I found the “Which 50’s Pin-Up Girl are You?” quiz to be a nice lil diversion (I’m Marilyn Monroe for anyone who is interested).

But the “Have Sex!” application, I think, takes things way too far and makes the Make A Baby application look like the epitome of class.

I know it’s supposed to be all fun and games, but in the end, it’s not. Because everyone knows that what happens on Facebook NEVER stays on Facebook, and the belief that Facebook never lies normally rings true. And if you think of Facbeook as a college community at heart, applicatons like these are how rumors get started.


feeling some kinda way: stuff black greeks like :-/

my xi sigma sweeties

I realize with this post that I will have to “out” myself as a member of a Black Greek Letter Organization (BGLO)

I am a member of Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Incorporated. I am also the charter member of Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Inc. Xi Sigma Chapter at The George Washington University, and I served as the first chapter president there. I’ll be 4 zeta years old this year πŸ™‚ and no matter what the haters say, I love my organization to the fullest.

That said, a few weeks ago I became privy to the latest in the stuff people like phenomenon, Stuff Black Greeks Like. Now I will say that the blog, while biting (sometimes a bit too biting), is actually pretty funny at times. The anonymous writer’s entry about the Alpha Kappa Alpha/Delta Sigma Theta Rivalry had me dyin:

Ever seen a girl fight where the women are about to go at it? The crowd gathers for the brawl… the women gather to choose a side and jump in if need be, the men just want to see a shirt get ripped off to see some titties… such is the rivalry between the ladies of Alpha Kappa Alpha and Delta Sigma Theta.

…because in some ways it is true.

But with that said, I’m concerned about the overall feel of the blog…it is not really a list of things Black Greeks like per se, rather it is a list of things we don’t like OR that we just seem to tolerate…so as a stuff people like format, it might get a fail.

He or she is an equal opportunity @$$hole in a sense that EVERYBODY gets an insult or two thrown at them on this blog. My own organization has been called out on BS by the blogger and by some of the more ignorant commentators….so whoever reads the blog pretty much has to have a thick skin. If there’s one thing I learned as an undergrad Zeta it was how to take negativity in stride. Unfortunately, not everyone learns that. That, my friends, is A WHOLE ‘NOTHER discussion.

So who’s the mystery blogger? That’s just the thing. I don’t think it’s just one blogger.

I actually happen to think–after my beau and I further examined the blog entries and the writing style(s)–that it is a team or a duo of BLGO members, perhaps one male and one female.

I also happen to think it’s an AKA and an Alpha, and the only reason I say that is that there is a slight bias in their favor.

Anyway even though the blog is funny and painfully true in some regards, it still leaves me feeling some kinda way about it. I mean I know it’s in “good fun” but I don’t know how I feel about the fact that they seem to know so much about the organizations (though they did mess up on Honorable/Notable Members as some of the people listed were NOT members of the corresponding organizations…which means whoever told them was wrong too…again, another topic)

Well played though. I guess.

On that note I want to congratulate my undergrad chapter, Xi Sigma, on their Spring 2008 neos! The coming out show was fantaZtic πŸ™‚ congratulations, neos! now, get me a drink! πŸ˜‰

y’all know i’m jus’ playin. i love you.

Elledub on the radio!-This Sunday, April 20th

On this Sunday from 6-7pm, I will be featured on Rosetta Thurman’s BlogTalkRadio Show on Non-Profit professionals and the quest for a good salary. As a Non-Profit gal, this is a topic very near and dear to my heart.

Rosetta is the Director of Development at Non Profit Roundtable and her blog, Perspectives from the Pipeline, focuses on diversity and other issues young professionals face in the Non-Profit sector.

Click here this Sunday at 6pm to tune in and perhaps ask a question or two.

revival of the R&B teen queen

I know I’ve griped a lot about young girls and teens and how they’re growing up so fast these days….but tonight I wanted to talk about a girl named Karina Pasian, a 16 year old up-and-coming r&b singer. She has a song about precisely some of the themes I’ve brought up i this blog: the challenges girls face growing up in a society that insists they rush into adulthood. My boyfriend and I heard it on the radio one afternoon and I thought to myself, “Man, I really wish more young r&b acts sung songs about things like this.”

Here it is…”16 at war”:

The bridge says it all: I want you to know the best of me/I want to belong without being treated like property. It’s so refreshing to see a young singer talk about something other than the boy around the corner or lip gloss…

…and trust me, I know there’s a time and a place for everything, and there is room for both kinds of artists. I happen to like Lil Mama cuz she’s very age appropriate and has a cute, funky style…but I’m just glad to know that the young generation of r & b acts are also talking about things of substance, and about how they think, feel, and react to the community around them.

I’m wondering if any of these younger female acts—Teyana Taylor and Tiffany Evans included–will fill the shoes that Monica, Brandy, and even Beyonce once filled.

To switch gears, this post wouldn’t be complete without a throwback track….I KNOW I am not the only one who remembers “That’s What Little Girls Are Made Of” by Raven-Symone…I even had the album!

women i love part whatever

Last night at DC’s Zanzibar on the Waterfront, I got to see this lovely lady from London in concert:

For those who don’t know, Estelle is the first artist on John Legend’s new label, Home School Records. In fact, he performed with Estelle on a few songs last night (OMG!)

She has so much energy live—and her background singers were really doin it! I’m sure video from last night’s performance will surface on YouTube pretty soon, so when it does I’ll be sure to post it up.

Check out the video for “1980”….

Estelle’s MySpace

Thanks to my fellow black blogger Rosetta Thurman for being my plus one for the evening πŸ™‚

Women I love Part 3-Betty Wright

….hell yeah I’m still doing this. April has just started and Women’s History should be celebrated all year round anyway, as should Black History. so there! πŸ˜›

And with that, I bring you Betty Wright, soul sister extraordinaire:

Some of you may be very familiar with “Tonight is the Night”. particularly because of the hook: “Tonight is the night you make me a woman…”

And if you hadn’t guessed, the song is about “making love for the very first time” as she tells us in her humorous but matter-of-factly way during her classic two-minute monologue.

I almost forgot about this song until a friend of mine had the above link in her Gchat status….I fell in love with it all over again when I finally clicked the link after coming home from work. She speaks in a candid, sincere way about her first sexual experience in a way that very few female artists had done at that time, but in a way that was timely—this song was released in 1974, right in the middle of the Womens’ Movement.

Black female sexuality is a topic that I’ve explored both as an English major and as a womanist who is dedicated to women and girls’ advocacy. This song–aside from the sense of humor Betty Wright displays so well –reminds me of how important it is for women of color to embrace their sexuality in a positive way. More often then not, in the age of HIV, video vixens, and (sigh) men on the “down low” we forget that sex is supposed to be something beautiful and precious and–yes,–memorable. And that, to me, is just as important as learning about safe sex, abstinence, love relationships, and the like.

To switch gears, I thought I’d throw in another song by her. Here’s “Girls Can’t Do What the Guys Can Do” :

I’ve been listening to this song on repeat for a few days…great commentary on the double standard…it’s true, girls simply can’t always do what guys do and get the same amount of respect. The more things change the more they stay the same.

On a lighter note, “Girls Can’t Do What the Guys Can Do” was sampled by one Beyonce Knowles. I’m usually pretty good with samples but even I didn’t catch this one:

Things of Note: stylish 8-year-olds, Kwame’s Muse, a gratuitous Obama pic, and what black men think.

I know it’s been a while, so I’m just gonna jump right in:

I can’t believe I haven’t talked about this before. I was on the Green Line the other day when i saw two 8 year old girls decked out in skinny jeans and door knockers. oh, and they had on the boots with the fur.

skinny jeans?

Door knockers?

eight year olds?

….boots with the fur?

I’ll never understand how “grown” these little girls are dressing now. When I was eight, do you know what I as wearing? I was wearing jumper overalls.

I mean sure, looking back, now that I’m in my 20s they were pretty lame…but you know what?

They were age appropriate.

And I guess that’s my point….when did parents stop dressing their girls appropriately? Since when did they start dressing kids up in designer clothes? When I was 8, my mom boughtmy clothes from Sears. I wasn’t dressed like a 22-year-old fashionista, I was dressed like a little Black girl.

All of this goes back to my discussion about sexual maturity a few weeks ago…we’ve gotta let our girls be girls. But I’m gonna take off my girls’ advocate hat, otherwise we’ll be here all night.

support black bloggers. all the cool kids are doin’ it: Some of you may remember Kwame Boadi from previous plugs for his column at Brooklyn Bodega. His own blog is back with a vengeance…Check it out his musings on the science of the “dap,” election ’08, and the puzzling history of the name Kwame.

Worth a Click: What Black Men Think is a documentary dispelling many stereotypes about Black men—for instance, are there REALLY more black men in jail than in college? if you believe so, is it simply because society has embedded this “statistic” into our minds? Definitely worth a look. There are clearly many struggles that Black men face, but when you take a closer look there really is hope–and in a few cases it’s not as bad as we are made to believe.

The film explores the issue of black marriage, the use of the N-word, academic achievement, crime. “There is a disconnect between perception and reality,” Morton says.

Read More from director Janks Morton at Washington Post.

And now, another awesome Obama pic:

Obama ’08. Pennsylvania. Let’s get it.