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Things of Note: The Shame of Monica Conyers | Saartjie Project | Risque Prom Dresses

Posted by: elledub08 on: May 15, 2008

Guess who’s bizzack (c) Jay-Z and Scarface

Aight, let’s get right to it:

  • You embarrass me. You Embarrass yourself. That’s right, I’m talking to you Monica Conyers:

Some of you may have heard about this already, but Monica Conyers, the President Pro Tem of the Detroit City Council, got into a shouting match with Council woman Joann Watson and President of the City Council President Ken Cockrel. At the height of the foolishness, Conyers refers to Cockrel as “Shrek.” Leading up to that, she had blurted out,

“You’re not my daddy!You do that at home, not here. Give me some respect ’cause I’m tired of that. You may not do that at home, but you gon do it up in here.”Grow up! Control your house and you’ll know how to treat women better.”

Nevermind the fact that Cockrel was just doing his job and attempting to keep the order in the session. And yet Monica Conyers, a grown woman, deemed it necessary to attack the man personally like she was a 12 year old brat. It was probably the most embarrassing spectacle of I’ve ever seen from one of our so-called Black Leaders.

If Monica’s last name sounds familiar to you, it’s because she is the wife of Congressman John Conyers, the chair of the House Judiciary Committee. And Speaking of 12 year olds, check out this clip of 8th grader Kierra Bell questioned Conyers actions:

…out of the mouth of babes. Conyers was rendered almost speechless. You go, girl. Maybe you can take Ms. Conyer’s place one day.

  • Ciao, Bella!: The Saartjie Project, a collective of artists exploring the legacy of the Hottentot Venus, now has a great article about the newest cover of Italian Vogue via The Root. It’s so interesting to me how other [European] cultures have embraced Black female beauty. in a way that American culture has yet to.
  • Another installment of “Don’t dress your daughter like a skank”: Long story short-Marche Taylor, High School senior, was arrested when refusing to leave when the principal told her that her skimpy prom dress would bar her from entry into to prom.
  • [Marche Taylor] was told her custom-made dress violated the school dress code.

    At that point, Taylor said she was furious. She said if she couldn’t get in, she wanted her money back.

    Things got so bad that someone called the police. Officers showed up, handcuffed her and escorted her out. from KHOU

My verdict: sorry, this girl ain’t a victim.

the principal did what she had to do—uphold of standard of appropriate dress for a prom, which meant that girls would not be allowed to have their ASSets hangin out everywhere and pass it off as “cute.” (the dress wasn’t anywhere NEAR cute—but that is a different story as this is not a fashion blog :-) )

As for the girl getting arrested–let’s be clear: the girl wasn’t being arrested for wearing the dress. She was being arrested for causing a scene when she found out she couldn’t go to her prom.

I can’t pass all the blame on the girl though. I’ve discussed this here before, and if any of you were to log on to What About Our Daughters, they would agree–parents need to teach their daughters about what is and is not age-appropriate. My mother would have looked at me crazy if I had even suggested wearing a get-up like that, and it’s because she taught me better than that.

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I’m not gon’ lie. I think some adults got carried away and ruined this young lady’s shining high school moment.

Can we try a conversation like, “Go home, and if you can’t find something that matches your date straight away, put on a not-so-little black dress, and we’ll let you in…”

?????

Is that not okay? Instead, I offer to put on some more clothes and you’re still like, “Uhuh, but no. Go home.” I would have lost my mind, too.

Instead of the adults having some tact, they acted like some jealous little women who either a) don’t have the body to wear the dress, b) don’t have a man who wants to match them in the street or c) had a horrific prom experience and want someone else to live the same.

This young lady is now going to be yet another ‘angry black woman’ already deemed a skank by local and national news sources alike. Her, her dress, her body… all exposed and for what?

When our proms went down, the ‘genie in a bottle’ look was in. All the girls had these ridiculous dresses with their mid-sections out. More so than not having the body to wear them, I thought they were tacky. Yet, to each his own.

Were they afraid some little boy was going to stick his penis up her little short skirt? Really, what was the big deal?

And, no, my child would NEVER walk out the house in that on my watch nor would I have that nothingness of a dress MADE for her special occasion. Yet, again, to each his own.

And this is a point I didn’t expound on as much:

should the girl have been arrested? No, I don’t think she should have–but I also wonder why the girl’s parents allowed her to wear the dress in the first place.

And I understand the idea of to each his own, but where do we draw the line?

The other question I had was: how risque was this dress in comparison to other girls’ dresses?

To your point, i’ve seen some pretty ridiculous prom dresses–back when i was in high school and now. When were there ever any rules or standards for what is deemed appropriate Prom attire prior to the event? ie, did the school actually say,

“no midriffs?”

and then–is it REALLY the school’s responsibility to mandate how girls should dress? Like I said, it should be the responsibility of the parents to keep track of whatever it is their daughters are wearing to things like this, and to give the last word of approval.

as for her reaction—it’s still not clear exactly WHAT was said for the situation to escalate to handcuffs–and yes i do think that instead of jumping to callin’ the po-po, they could have allowed for her to find something else appropriate to wear at home

overall, a situation where the punishment doesn’t necessarily fit the crime. But I can sort of understand where the Principal was going with this.

So about Ms. Conyers,
Sigh… did she have a mental breakdown? Was that all ego? Did she reach the point of no return?

I’m reading a lot of Freud for class so I’d be remiss if I didn’t say she was projecting a whole lotta stuff on to Cockrel and Watson. “Daddy”? Seriously?

See this supports my pro “ppl of color should explore therapy” view.

About the prom dress scandal…
I’m mad they made the girl walk up and down the street in broad daylight with the dress on (and flip flops) after the fact.

If you havent seen the clip…http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uQrfVh-sIRE

Somehow i missed the point. Probably lost in translation :) Anyway … nice blog to visit.

cheers, Pestiferous.

Conyers was right in being angry and feeling disrespectful. It is a sad day that someone is ridiculed and condemned for speaking up for themselves. When Black people condemn each other for speaking up, it is a form of mental slavery that this white patriarchy commends. Go Monica Conyers!

The whole panel of children questioning a grown woman was also shameful. Wow. We really are mental slaves and don’t even need puppet strings to beat down each other. To have a black woman speak up against a man, apparantly, according to this video montage is that she must be punished and humiliated. THAT is what is shameful.

gloria,

thanks for your comments but in all honesty you sound very misguided…did you read the story?

did you miss the part when he was trying to close the session and she TALKED OVER HIM?

did you miss the part when she said “you ain’t my daddy” like a damn 12 year old?

did you miss the part when she called the president of the city council SHREK?

did you miss all of that?

you must have, because that is what happened and this unfortunately has NOTHING to do with sexism. sorry, she’s not a victim.

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